“I don’t like playing games.”
It sounds reasonable and healthy. But when the person who says they don’t like playing games is perhaps the master game player, we really need to understand what is going on.
When you get responses from others that you didn’t expect, it is very possible that there is some game playing going on. This is especially true when one or both parties uses passive aggressive behavior to manipulate others into doing what they want.
The game player would rather be right and win an argument, than admit to being wrong, and improving themself.
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Life for you might be simple. Maybe you wander through your life going from day to day doing the same thing. Each day the same as the last…and the next. Maybe you never wonder if there is anything more that you could and possibly should experience and enjoy. Maybe you are completely satisfied with your life as it is now…or at least you tell yourself that. Isn’t that the way it is supposed to be?
If you are, you already stopped reading…
So I can be confident that you are here because something in your life experience is not exactly what you planned, not what you expected and possibly not what you want at all.
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Kicking you when you’re down
Have you ever received a note from someone that was designed to put you down, to set you straight and to make you do something the writer thinks will make everything better? It is fascinating to understand how much some people try to control us and our decisions when we can step back and examine the situation, instead of getting caught up in the emotions as the writer intended. Perhaps your family tries to control what you do and use comments that are critical and hurtful. Since they can’t accept what you stand for or Continue reading Kicking you when you’re down
Big Steps at a Mexican Wedding
For some, the next big step will be Continue reading Big Steps at a Mexican Wedding
Everyone uses mechanisms to protect themselves from pain. In my case, I took on the position of teacher’s pet and stuck close to adults so my peers would be less able to physically hurt me. I also developed an ego to keep people distant from me so they couldn’t easily hurt me. If I’m “smarter” than you are, you won’t be able to hurt me. This makes having close healthy relationships difficult. I also tended to have friends who were female and were less physically aggressive and less likely to hurt me. I suggest that ego became my first blind spot.
Living wholeheartedly. This is a key to having a happy Continue reading Living wholeheartedly