I struggled with how to present this information to you for over three years. Dug deeply into the self help industry learning conventional techniques that might not help anyone really. I tried and tried to take the God Factor under wraps and make it a surprise at the end. But I failed.
This morning I had a dream. In that dream the God Factor became clear to me. And now I am compelled to share with you the true story of why You MATTER!
I begin at the beginning, for where else can one really begin? Well, almost the beginning. We really must go even further back than the beginning. Because the story of why You MATTER! begins even before the beginning.
I cannot do any better than to say, I believe in a God who is different than you think he is. The God I trust with my life does things that make no sense to me sometimes. He is bigger than time; more powerful than any other being that exists. But here is one thing about my God that is so different than any other being in existence that I cannot understand it. My God loves. He is so full of goodness, that almost nothing else matters.
As I was saying, my story, and yours, begins even before the beginning of time. God was talking with himself. He decided that he wanted someone to share his goodness with. He wanted someone to love. Someone who would choose to love him back.
One thing God did not want was a puppet. The kind of relationship God needed to have is free from obligation. Love or do not love. Nothing forced. Nothing controlled. Nothing obligated. Either a completely free and unencumbered loving relationship, or nothing at all. 100% or nothing.
And then he thought of You!
“I don’t like playing games.”
It sounds reasonable and healthy. But when the person who says they don’t like playing games is perhaps the master game player, we really need to understand what is going on.
When you get responses from others that you didn’t expect, it is very possible that there is some game playing going on. This is especially true when one or both parties uses passive aggressive behavior to manipulate others into doing what they want.
The game player would rather be right and win an argument, than admit to being wrong, and improving themself.
Continue reading I don’t like playing games →
Life for you might be simple. Maybe you wander through your life going from day to day doing the same thing. Each day the same as the last…and the next. Maybe you never wonder if there is anything more that you could and possibly should experience and enjoy. Maybe you are completely satisfied with your life as it is now…or at least you tell yourself that. Isn’t that the way it is supposed to be?
If you are, you already stopped reading…
So I can be confident that you are here because something in your life experience is not exactly what you planned, not what you expected and possibly not what you want at all.
Continue reading When what you cannot see you cannot see →
Have you ever faced a dilemma?
Something you always wanted to do comes at a price you’re not quite sure you’re willing to pay.
Maybe you always wanted to do something, like maybe you’ve always wanted to sky dive…that’s right, you want to jump out of an airplane…so you set that goal in your bucket list.
But in the meantime, Continue reading My Dilemma →
There are many reasons that things happen. People respond or react to trauma and situations they experience in life. We each respond differently, but we see patterns that are common. One of the great losses and a side effect brought on by the strong independent woman is that men are no longer needed, or allowed to protect her and provide for her needs and the needs of the family. Another great loss is the loss of the loving and nurturing mother and wife.
This article is not about the causes that brought about that relationship breakdown. Abuses of power, self-centeredness, and simple indifference for some families have caused great pain and trauma. We cover more relationship issues and ways to improve them in other LifeShift Academy™ articles and resources.
Having a growing healthy relationship with anyone requires Continue reading The Crazy Dance →