“I don’t like playing games.”
It sounds reasonable and healthy. But when the person who says they don’t like playing games is perhaps the master game player, we really need to understand what is going on.
When you get responses from others that you didn’t expect, it is very possible that there is some game playing going on. This is especially true when one or both parties uses passive aggressive behavior to manipulate others into doing what they want.
The game player would rather be right and win an argument, than admit to being wrong, and improving themself.
Continue reading I don’t like playing games
Life for you might be simple. Maybe you wander through your life going from day to day doing the same thing. Each day the same as the last…and the next. Maybe you never wonder if there is anything more that you could and possibly should experience and enjoy. Maybe you are completely satisfied with your life as it is now…or at least you tell yourself that. Isn’t that the way it is supposed to be?
If you are, you already stopped reading…
So I can be confident that you are here because something in your life experience is not exactly what you planned, not what you expected and possibly not what you want at all.
Continue reading When what you cannot see you cannot see
One of the most fascinating things is how we all end up dealing with Head Trash. You know, the messages you tell yourself that often seem to tell you that things won’t go well for you. Perhaps the messages say that you shouldn’t take any risks because you will probably lose.
Do you have anything like that going on in your head?
Sometimes we call them tapes. The messages that we replay over an over again.
If only I had said….something Continue reading Head Trash
There are many reasons that things happen. People respond or react to trauma and situations they experience in life. We each respond differently, but we see patterns that are common. One of the great losses and a side effect brought on by the strong independent woman is that men are no longer needed, or allowed to protect her and provide for her needs and the needs of the family. Another great loss is the loss of the loving and nurturing mother and wife.
This article is not about the causes that brought about that relationship breakdown. Abuses of power, self-centeredness, and simple indifference for some families have caused great pain and trauma. We cover more relationship issues and ways to improve them in other LifeShift Academy™ articles and resources.
Having a growing healthy relationship with anyone requires Continue reading The Crazy Dance
Seeing Life From a Different Perspective
Last time I wrote about Harry and Sally. They don’t always make the most logical or sensible decisions…at least it seems that way to you and me.
Today I received several phone calls. One saying my new glasses arrived. Another asking about how to respond to a Real Estate deal with a couple added and unexpected twists. These two calls made me think about Harry, Sally, Rose Colored Glasses and how the lenses we see through affect what we see.
My friend called about the Real Estate deal. He really needs a new place to live this week. He called to say that the landlord asked Continue reading Rose Colored Glasses