The Dreamy Idealist

Dreamy Idealists are very cautious and therefore often appear shy and reserved to others. They share their rich emotional life and their passionate convictions with very few people. But one would be very much mistaken to judge them to be cool and reserved. They have a pronounced inner system of values and clear, honorable principles for which they are willing to sacrifice a great deal.

Joan of Arc or Sir Galahad would have been good examples of this personality type. Dreamy Idealists are always at great pains to improve the world. They can be very considerate towards others and do a lot to support them and stand up for them. They are interested in their fellow beings, attentive and generous towards them. Once their enthusiasm for an issue or person is aroused, they can become tireless fighters.

As a Dreamy Idealist you are one of the introverted personality types. Therefore you prefer a quiet work environment where you can intensively deal with your responsibilities and are not disturbed by too many people and repeated distractions. You need a lot of time to dwell on your thoughts, to put them into words, and let your ideas take shape.

You are grateful for a certain measure of order and structure because they secure the time to achieve this so you can deal with one task after the other and not have to juggle a number of responsibilities at once – you don’t like that because it is important to you to deal with things thoroughly. Your capability to concentrate is unusually great and very often you become engrossed in something and forget everything around you – even to eat and drink.

Nevertheless, because you are very adaptable, congenial and interested in harmony and cooperation, you enjoy working together with others. A neighborhood that requires the ability to assert yourself and where direct confrontations are the order of the day is not your optimal environment. In order to permit you to fully develop your ability you need an environment that is as stress free as possible. If you can’t get that you soon suffer, because you take critique and negative feedback very personally.

You enjoy the opportunity for exchanges with other people you value and whose capabilities you respect but in this case remember the motto: Better less than more; better a few “hand picked” colleagues who truly move on your wavelength. It is best when you share the same high ideals and important objectives and together can fight for the same good cause because then you are truly in your element. If that is not the case, you do better by largely working by yourself because you belong to the personality types who can do that very well and don’t necessarily have to depend on others in order to come up with good results.

 

Happy New Year because You MATTER!

I struggled with how to present this information to you for over three years. Dug deeply into the self help industry learning conventional techniques that might not help anyone really. I tried and tried to take the God Factor under wraps and make it a surprise at the end. But I failed.

This morning I had a dream. In that dream the God Factor became clear to me. And now I am compelled to share with you the true story of why You MATTER!

I begin at the beginning, for where else can one really begin? Well, almost the beginning. We really must go even further back than the beginning. Because the story of why You MATTER! begins even before the beginning.

I cannot do any better than to say, I believe in a God who is different than you think he is. The God I trust with my life does things that make no sense to me sometimes. He is bigger than time; more powerful than any other being that exists. But here is one thing about my God that is so different than any other being in existence that I cannot understand it. My God loves. He is so full of goodness, that almost nothing else matters.

As I was saying, my story, and yours, begins even before the beginning of time. God was talking with himself. He decided that he wanted someone to share his goodness with. He wanted someone to love. Someone who would choose to love him back.

One thing God did not want was a puppet. The kind of relationship God needed to have is free from obligation. Love or do not love. Nothing forced. Nothing controlled. Nothing obligated. Either a completely free and unencumbered loving relationship, or nothing at all. 100% or nothing.

And then he thought of You!

I don’t like playing games

“I don’t like playing games.”

It sounds reasonable and healthy.  But when the person who says they don’t like playing games is perhaps the master game player, we really need to understand what is going on.

When you get responses from others that you didn’t expect, it is very possible that there is some game playing going on.  This is especially true when one or both parties uses passive aggressive behavior to manipulate others into doing what they want.

The game player would rather be right and win an argument, than  admit to being wrong, and improving themself.

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When what you cannot see you cannot see

Life for you might be simple.  Maybe you wander through your life going from day to day doing the same thing.  Each day the same as the last…and the next.  Maybe you never wonder if there is anything more that you could and possibly should experience and enjoy.  Maybe you are completely satisfied with your life as it is now…or at least you tell yourself that.  Isn’t that the way it is supposed to be?

If you are, you already stopped reading…

So I can be confident that you are here because something in your life experience is not exactly what you planned, not what you expected and possibly not what you want at all.

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The Journey of Belonging

The Journey to BelongOnce upon a time; let’s call it, “The Beginning”, there was this guy.  The writer calls Him God.  The writer never really explains where God came from.  The writer says He was always there.  WOW.  Something we don’t understand already.  Okay.  So we have this guy God who already existed in the beginning.  Cool!  Now, on with the story.
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