Public and Private Issues
Last time I mentioned that some people hesitate to publicly admit they have problems. It’s especially difficult to make admissions with people from the community that you already know. We want to look like everything is being handled and we’ve got everything together and under control. We dress for success, put on our game face and pretend that everything is okay.
The problem is, for many, everything is NOT okay. We say things are going well, but we aren’t being totally honest. It’s difficult to say that you’re having struggles that keep you stuck. We pretend everything will be fine, but take no action to make them better. We’re ashamed to tell anyone what is really going on.
Like I mentioned, if you hesitate to join a local support group…and many people feel uncomfortable joining a local face-to-face group, I developed a solution that can help!
Contentment and Dissatisfaction
We don’t change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the perceived pain of change. We prefer to believe that everything is going well, or as well as it can be. But there’s often a part of us that isn’t completely satisfied with keeping things the same way they’ve always been. We yearn for something better because we know it’s out there. We don’t always know what to look for but we know the way things have always been done just doesn’t cut it anymore. While some people wait till pain forces them to change. Others “get it” and choose to grow and invest in their future knowing that Bigger and Better is out there. Sometimes understanding the importance of investing in our future happens after the pain of loss.
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